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On 14th June, 2020, I
was sleeping in my bedroom because I was feeling low. After getting up, I
scrolled through my Mobile’s notifications and read about the demise of Sushant
Singh Rajput. I could not believe it at all as he was one of the leading actors
in the new generation of Bollywood and everyone knew that he is going to be one
among the Top List after a decade or so. It made me suddenly cry as I could not
decipher anything out of it and felt as if I have died and I am reading people
write good things about me. People use the word “coward” for those who die by
suicide but have they ever thought why do they have to take such extreme step?
What goes on with their mind and heart that compels them to not think about
anything else and take that step which shall end everything?
The people who leave us like this
couldn’t think about their parents, siblings, spouse, children, friends,
colleagues etc. because they become so weak that they are not even able to
think about themselves. They get lost in a world where they are unable to even
identify themselves and forget what they are meant for and what they wanted to
do in life. For them, life means only death now. And death looks and sounds
more promising and peaceful than life. Every person is built with some kind of
strength unit or say, a person has made him/herself strong only up to that
unit. Once the measurement surpasses that mark, a person howsoever strong,
positive, successful or brave he or she was, starts reacting to things
negatively – either some of them start behaving aggressively and spoil their
relationships with the way they behave in public whereas few people tend to get
quiet and isolated.
As soon as someone gets quiet,
people around him/her should be identifying this and give the strength this
person is missing. Your few words might make the person see things that are
disturbing him/her in a different light. May be this person who was not wanting
to face something in near future or didn’t know how to deal with it starts
taking it as an opportunity to test him/herself and become stronger than before.
But it all depends if someone around them who is stronger identifies this
person’s behaviour at the right time when he starts going into recluse. But it
is all about if we have such selfless and patient people around us in this time
of competition and almost negligible attention span. How long can someone
entertain this person who has lost all his strength and talks only the negative
side of life? How long can someone contain their irritation of daily going
through this cycle of depressed talks from the other side and then giving sweet
talks controlling his/her frustration?
And this is what a person in
depression thinks – he feels that there is no-one who would be able to hold him
for a long time as they realize that they will take a lot of time to get better
and stronger. And that is what triggers them to happily leave this world as it
is by just subtracting themselves who might create more problems for his
loved-ones if he goes on living. The loved-ones always feel that they would
have supported the person who has gone but it’s a harsh reality that very
rarely such people get continuous support from family. Even family starts
raising expectation after sometime and blames on this person directly/indirectly
for any failure that happens in the family. All I can say is that sometimes
Death looks better than Life and if not treated at times, such people always
have courage to go towards Death than having the same courage to deal with
situations going in their external life or within themselves.
I am someone who often gets
depressed even when there’s no stress or pain-point in life and therefore I
understand such people who find this way more pleasing than usual way. But then
who are left behind are no one to judge such people. We can only feel for them
and we shouldn’t call them names. At least not COWARDS or LOSERS. They were
better than many and could have been better than many others also. May be even
we aren’t at a level where the person was when he gives away his life. As in
case of Sushant- majority of us don’t have the kind of success, money, fame, talent,
skill and knowledge that he had. So, calling him anything shall only make us
look smaller. We should try understanding why someone at that level will do
THIS. And if we understand that, we understand LIFE and DEATH and the cycle of
it. That either makes us Spiritual or Practical- but it makes us something that
helps us in dealing with ourselves and others who are weaker than us
emotionally. So, it’s better to understand Sushant and various others who have
left us or are going through the same rather than calling Names and leaving all
the vulnerable souls to heal or die by themselves.
Sushant, you may not be right but
definitely, you are not wrong. I understand you.
- WRITING BUDDHA
