Sunday, 17 February 2019 | By: Writing Buddha

The Experience of Meeting The Man Who Changed My Life- ROBIN SHARMA!!!

1742nd BLOG POST -->>


Sometimes few people or books or things change your life at the most unexpected time and your life doesn’t remain same after that. I was in 12th standard and had no goals or objectives in life. The only thing I loved was to be on text messages with my loved ones and spend as much time as possible over it. Similarly, cyber cafes in India was a new thing then and I loved surfing Internet and exploring new websites every now and then without even realizing the amount of money, time and energy I was wasting in it. One day, someone asked me to read this book by an author called Robin Sharma named “Who Will Cry When You Die?”. I liked the book’s title like anything as I was having suicidal tendency then and I thought it is something which I would like to read and know.

The very next day I went to the railway station’s Wheeler Book Store and asked for this book. I saw that the book has 100 chapters of a page each which seemed easy to finish. I finished that book within a night and when I turned its last page, I was a self-realized and self-evaluated person already. I had got changed for life. I understood how important this small thing called Life is and how big we can transform it into with just few basic manipulations in our daily routine. I went to the Railway station again on the next day and bought “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari”- the most popular book of Robin Sharma. After reading this one, I just couldn’t sleep for some days in frustration and irritation of how much I have already ended up wasting myself.

Few days after this, the first Big Bazaar got opened in our city and I went with my mother for some shopping. There was a small book section there which luckily had only Robin Sharma’s books and one copy each of only those books which I had not read till then. I went to my Mother and requested her if she can buy all of them for me. They were quite sum of amount considering the middle-class budget. My mother rather than giving silly excuses of buying and finishing one and then going on for purchasing the next book, in a hope that at least her only son is thinking of reading something allowed me to put all the books in the cart. After some days we went for vacation to our native town which has 36 hours of railway journey. I carried all these dozen books of Mr. Robin and finished all of them in the journey and at my native town under open environment in my maternal grandfather’s farmhouse.

After reading all his books which were published then in 2010, I was someone with whom even I started enjoying the company. I had become so positive and wilful. I never said NO to any challenge post then and did some tasks I believed earlier I would have never been able to even discuss them leave picking them up and actually executing them. A boy who was failure at everything started getting better. The one who failed twice in his Junior College passed his High-school, bachelor’s degree and two Master’s degree without failing in any subject even once. Even with Blog that I created myself, I have been able to take it up to a certain level all by myself just with the belief, confidence, inspiration, energy, motivation and will this man called Robin Sharma has charged into me.

He is the only writer in whose work I find every sentence a motivational quote. He just does not know how to write a normal sentence. Every sentence he writes is like those great carvings on Taj Mahal. It seems he has taken a lifetime to craft each sentence. Every sentence is legendary and special and impactful and what not. His words are epitome of energy and there can be nothing over that which you can point at and say makes you feel limitless as human being. I had wanted so much to meet him since I finished completing just his first book which had changed my thought process for the very 1st time but I knew it was nearly impossible considering he stays in USA and comes India very rarely. But fortunately, with an event being arranged by Jaico Publication and Crossword Book Store, I booked my tickets for this special workshop which was to be conducted by the man himself on the principles he has discussed in his latest book named “The 5 AM Club”.

I had gone with so much of emotions that I am going to experience a person live who has changed my life that I was uncertain how I would react on seeing him in flesh and blood infront of me. And how should I express my feeling of seeing him speak in front of me and providing so much of motivation, inspiration with his great insights on life. He is a man with such positive vibes that the moment I saw him in front of me and till now after 9 hours of it, I can still feel the vibrations and energy within me. And this is not a normal excited feeling which shall go away after some time. It has 100x impact than what his book has had over me. Now I am beginning to look at my life ahead with more excitement and energy. The handshake opportunity that I had with him shall stay with me all my life to pull me up whenever I fall down in life.

 
It has been such a Dream Come True moment for me. 16th February has become an immortal date for me now which shall be celebrated each day in the memory of this special day which has surely transformed my life little more the impact of which shall be visible sooner and stay for the longest possible time. I thank the organizers for making it possible and also would like to appreciate Tisca Chopra for conducting such a beautiful session for a short period when she was on stage with him.

Thank You God and Universe for Providing Me This Opportunity.

Some pictures from the event:- 








ABHILASH RUHELA

Wednesday, 13 February 2019 | By: Writing Buddha

Love kills us or do we kill love?

1741st BLOG POST -->>


Today’s the day of Valentine's when most of us celebrate relationships. There’s always lot of jokes going around about the pros and cons of being single or committed but as it said, how much you enjoy your singlehood, you want to end up getting committed once with the person you find yourself getting compatible with without thinking about what the future of this relationship would be. In the beginning of every relationship, it is felt as if this is going to be an endless odyssey which both of us shall walk together until one of us shall leave our mortal body but the realization dawns after few weeks when the affair of love gets little old.

No one wants to initially think about the limitations a love relationship comes with. Everyone believes and wants to believe that this is an endless saga that shall stay with us in every moment when we feel weaker at times. It is only when one realizes that most of the weakest moments of life are those which are caused because of this relationship itself, isn’t it? Loving someone is inevitable. You do not have control over it. Expressing your love is one hell of a task which not many can do. But these days because both the genders are associated since childhood very closely, love happens and it is expressed after an incidental kiss or physical intimacy already takes place. Holding each other’s hand itself clarifies both the person that something has been brewing in our hearts and it is only after some time that the final claim of love takes place until then it is all unsaid and adventurous.

A relationship takes away a lot of energy from you. A relationship needs a lot of involvement. Though everyone of us feel like it should keep walking in background along with our daily chores but it does not. It stops the moment you stop giving it the demanding attention. You have to slog very hard in a relationship. But the coolest part is that this slogging looks beautiful. No one complains about this until some day it all comes down to your ego, space, trust issues, time issues, commitment issues, loyalty issues, self-respect and personal life. It is only when you start losing the already set world of yours because of this new addition in your life do you start feeling the burden of this relationship or this relationship as a burden.

Love is beautiful and magic for sure. But remember, this love is never in the person you love, but within you. With time, we start considering love to be the person we are romantically involved in. We should be consciously aware of it in every moment that this love resides within us. That person has just been the trigger for it to be expressed and displayed. Otherwise, you are full of love already and you actually do not need anyone to feel you are in love. But then, God has created the two genders for some reason, right? So let’s not take away that from the creator. What I mean to say by saying that do not consider love to be in the person you are with is to ensure that your sanctity and your consciousness for yourself stays as it is irrespective of howsoever supportive and amicable your partner is.

The whole goof-up begins when you start expecting and dominating. You are then treated like a dog. Your self-respect is then tarnished every now and then. You become a slave of someone’s ego. You have to bear the mood swings of another person and think if you have done something wrong which made them react so unevenly. This is all very gross. The relationship if is named “Love”, then it should always display love. If a person makes mistake, it should be acceptable by them within minutes after committing. Judging your partner’s patience in relationship will only kill the feeling slowly. If that is what you are waiting for, continue disrespecting the relationship by keeping yourself and your mood above the person and relationship. But if anyway this matters to you then remember, the person with you is expecting love every moment. Even when there’s disagreement, arguments, unwanted discussions, just after the end of it, love is still expected immediately. If it does not come along with all of these, then the relationship is killing both the people or say, both the people are killing the relationship.

This Valentine’s Day, promise yourself that love is meant to be dived into without thinking about yourself, your breathe, your body, your existence. In that moment of diving, you only want to dive and swim and experience the new life. Always remember the moment when you were diving into this. Now that you have experienced and realized that there’s equal amount of challenges in the relationships as the excitement and fun, don’t forget the initial feeling you had. But if the relationship is not adding value to your life and is only giving you stress, then remember, it’s better staying single on such Valentine’s Day because as said, love is already there within you, you need not search it in someone who does not have respect for your existence in their life. This day is for feeling the presence of love within you first and then in the person you are with and celebrating this together. This is all I had to say on this beautiful day. Happy Valentine’s Day to all my readers. Go and express your love like never before. Or else, sit silently with eyes closed and feel it within you.

P.S:- I apologize to all the readers who have been posting comments and mailing about my disappearance. I hope I shall be more active from now on. 

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA

Thursday, 3 January 2019 | By: Writing Buddha

Seizing Small Moments of Life

1740th BLOG POST -->>


How many moments do you remember from 2018 which does not involve the major events of your life? Are you thinking? Ok, Think. Did you remember some moments? One? Ok, think more. Two. It’s taking time? Fine. No problem. This is what is happening with most of us in this life which is so fast paced that we do not even give two cents of interest or time to the small moments that are filled with so much of love and happiness but keep on striving for that major event to happen and we believe that the whole essence of life shall come as an accumulation in that particular moment itself. Well, I believed the same till 2017 but had given myself a major goal to experience the small moments that come at regular intervals in life which provides enough satisfaction to you to move ahead in better speed and motivation towards your bigger goals.

The major part of getting this enlightening thought has been the benefit of meditation and reading about similar stuffs which made me realize the power of each moment we live in this life that we get in this body. Tomorrow we shall be part of some other body and the life of that body shall have its own limitations and liberties. But that is to witness, enjoy and struggle some other day. For now, we are in this body of human being known with a name that people call us with. It is time to reflect upon the moments that are just passing like that every day even without your notice in the life of a human being who is a divine soul in himself. Leave the hard or casual approach towards achieving the goals of your life that you are carrying with you. I hope you must have heard the esteemed judges’ comments in the reality shows when they say to a contestant that they need to practice more but they are being selected just because they were enjoying their own performance while performing. Hence, instead of just slogging or sleeping, whatever motivation you keep in your life, start living each moment and enjoying them to actually experience the LIFE that you are.

When I go back to 2018 and remember my moments, I realize the blissfulness of beautiful moments I have had alone and with people. Those solo walks in the nature while the sun rose in front of me. Those moments when I saw myself completing 10,000 steps daily for almost 21 days in streak. Those moments when I closed my eyes and after some time felt a natural peacefulness and joy of being just myself without much thoughts and stress. Those moments when a team mate in office came to me to celebrate an issue that he/she were able to solve after slogging for hours. Those moments when I was stuck in something very tiny but getting over it and feeling better about focusing on bigger things now than the minuscule stuff I was caught up in. Those moments when I received inspiration from the people I adore or personal appreciation from them. Those moments when I saw love in the eyes of people for me when I did something really touchy for them. Those moments when I reached the destination after long car drive and felt ecstatic about the fact that I was able to drive on new road and place without getting stuck somewhere.

These are small moments which I never noticed or gave any weight-age before 2018 but it made me such a machine that I only concentrated on achieving the targets in my personal and professional life without actually enjoying this amazing thing called LIFE which is the reason you and I are here and talking with each other. Now when I have celebrated these small events, I feel 2018 a sweet year per se among all the previous years I believed were my bests considering my personal achievements. I realized last year that life is not only about slogging but also about living. If you are not living and giving these moments a chance to leave its impact upon you, you shall not be able to enjoy even that bigger event you are waiting for. Even that shall pass just like that and you would start victimizing yourself for not being able to live life for decades. So, make yourself enough able to see yourself as a third person and realize the joy these small events bring with themselves. I am sure you will find a different pleasure in living this New Year which is wanting you to experience life better for next 360 days. Please do share your experiences when you felt the same about enjoying the small events of life.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!!