Wednesday, 19 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

When you have already been at the lowest point in your life..

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There was a time in life when I had lost everything. I can’t say that someone else had looted or betrayed me but life took such turns that I landed up in a situation from where coming out seemed to be an impossible task. At that point of time, I wasn’t studying at all. I wasn’t meeting anyone. I wasn’t socializing. I wasn’t talking with anyone through my mobile phone. I was just an isolated soul always thinking about what has just happened with me. I never thought about the future- what it would be. I never thought about past- about what things led me to the place I have got trapped in. I was just clueless- living in the moment with no vision, mission, goal, target, ambition- or whatever you call it.

I just had one basic requirement and that was- I am unable to study and I don’t want to study. Just imagine how scary and horrible those days must be! Today, when I look back to that person in his late teens struggling to make decisions and take ones which would take myself ahead- I feel so vulnerable thinking about it even now- when I believe that I am in my best frame of mind. There is always comparison with myself so I always know where I am standing and is this enough to lead or say, in the worst scenario, survive. If I feel I can, I just take everything at ease and do the things required to do to ensure that I am not regretful later on that if I could have or I should have done that then the things would have been better today. I just don’t want to question my decisions anymore.

I only know that my vulnerable self those 12-14 years back was the state where I had nothing more to lose. I have carried myself from there and did 8 years of education after that which can be easily termed as above average student life considering my extra-curricular activities and achievements outside of college through this medium of Blog too. What a motivating phase that was! A person who was been isolated was rubbing his shoulders with the celebrities whom he watched on television, movies etc. and idolized. Wow! And now when someone tries to pull me down, I don’t care at all. For me relationships matter but not as much as I give value to myself. I know, people will change once they are on their ego trip or I am not at the status I am.

God forbids, but suppose if I am unemployed for 6 months, will the people around me see me with the same respect or excitement they show today while meeting me or when my name pops up in any of their discussions? Not at all! I would be given as an example of how useless or foolish a person can be to take such decisions in life which transformed successful factors into the failure one. Today, I know that you can’t pull me down at the lowest because I have already seen that. Now, the strings are in my control. I know when to pull them, relax them, stretch them or cut all ties with them. I have become a person who just doesn’t get betrayed by anyone. I am the one who is betraying myself day in and day out. That’s another tale. Let’s not touch it today.

All I want to say is that when you have seen your lowest, just ensure that things are now being decided by you for your life and no one else. You know how weak you were in those situations when you felt nothing good happened with you – just don’t let that phase revisit you again. No one can take decisions on your behalf. No one can make you fall down. It should always be your call. Take your calls and be proud of them. Never abuse yourself for being wrong. Remember – too many wrongs make you understand what actual Right is. Be proud of making mistakes. You are doing it to yourself- at least that’s great. If someone else does and goes away, that is too frustrating. Love life and lead your life.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 


Saturday, 15 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Movie Review: Dabangg 3: Salman Khan seems to be himself bored of doing the same thing! *

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Salman Khan’s string of flops ended with the movie- Wanted which was directed by Prabhudeva and people got to see a new version of Salman in a new kind of cinema which had fast action and portrayed our favorite hero of 90s in an extremely macho avatar. I, unfortunately, couldn’t watch that movie in theatre but I ensured I watch Mr. Khan in his next movie- Dabangg which got released in 2010. It was Eid and only I know how hard it was for me to get the movie ticket for myself and my parents. Instantly, I liked the movie and enjoyed the character of Chulbul Pandey like anything and wished to see Salman Khan back in the same avatar in the franchisee. Dabangg 2 came just after 2 years in 2012 and I saw it with my friends and got so bored that I really wanted to meet Arbaaz Khan and rebuke him for his direction skills.

And now in 2019 came the part 3 of the franchisee after 7 years and this time, if there wasn’t any involvement of Arbaaz Khan in the making of the film, it had Salman Khan himself writing the script of the movie. Now, we know what happens when Salman Khan writes a movie- we get Tumko Na Bhool Payenge, Veer etc. This movie is a tragedy for people who love Chulbul Pandey because Salman Khan himself couldn’t do justice to him and made the memorable character’s mockery in this 3rd instalment. The movie has no smooth screenplay to follow and you will find the switch between scenes so abrupt that it becomes hard to ignore after sometime. The songs come when least expected. The action scenes begin when you want to hear some dialogues. Even D2 had dialogues If not as amazing as D1 but D3 lacks any such thing which could make audience whistle or clap.

Even the songs and hook-steps done by Salman Khan in those songs shows how tired he is himself to do it again and again. I don’t know if the makers felt it or not, but our favorite actor has started looking aged and it’s time for him to realize that he can’t romance an actress of 22 years old in any movie such as Saiee Manjrekar in this movie. Sonakshi Sinha does the same thing she has done in the 1st two movies hence not much complaints with her- she also has very less screen share in this movie.

The 1st half of the movie is very silly with Salman trying to make unwanted expressions between action and fighting sequences. The movie only gets little better in the 2nd half when the revenge saga begins. Still, it is so traditional that we saw this happening in the movies made in 80s and 90s. In 2019 and 2020, making something like this is very shameful. I liked some writing of the movie how the prequel is tried to be justified with few sensible scenarios but still it doesn’t impress enough.

Overall, this movie is below average and completely avoidable. Even Sudeep as villain couldn’t do much. Sonu Sood in 1st installment was rock-solid and no one has been able to overtake him yet. It’s time for Salman Khan to re-invent himself or else, the end is already here. One thing I liked in the movie is the song in the voice of Salman Ali- the Indian Idol 10 winner whom I rooted for.

I give this movie 1 star out of 5. Avoid! I watched it on Amazon Prime. Thanks for saving my money, OTTs. I am glad people made Good Newwz hit and not this movie as both released on the same time.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA  




Thursday, 13 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Love is an Art which has no Artist... Happy Valentine's Day!!!

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Quest! What a word, isn’t it? Love! Another word that brings sensation to anyone’s mind if one has ever fallen in true love with someone. What when both these words come together. Questing for love is such a painful journey that it makes you very lonely and each day you lose your self-respect. Valentine’s Day is known to be the day of love but I don’t think that many of us actually feel happy about this day. The people who are committed surely go out for a date whereas few have to go because of the social pressure that your partner would think you didn’t do enough for him/her. But for people who aren’t committed or dating someone are made to feel as if they are no worth living on this day.

I must say that celebrating love is completely acceptable but if you are not in relationship, just to ensure that you are also celebrating this day no matter what - is an unnecessary challenge given to people who are single. Such relationships should happen dynamically out of sudden emotions or gradual process and not done purposely. This makes people go ahead and approach someone just for the sake of Valentine’s Day. This, either if someone was not so serious till date, ends up being serious about the person he or she approached and starts ruining his/her life which was still happier with its singlehood before the proposal was made.

It is very necessary to understand that love is an art which has no artist. Sometimes after staying with someone for 10 years as just friends one starts feeling something special which was never felt in a decade. Sometimes someone you just hated all life starts seeming out to be bearable and all lovely. Sometimes you just see someone for the first time like many others but this one person becomes your eye’s candy whom you want to just keep looking at and you know you shall never be able to get rid of this habit. This is how the emotion- feeling -sensation – whatever love is- happens. Without any control of yours, the magic starts happening and you don’t have any practical answer for it to explain to others.

All of this is natural and should stay natural. And this is why feeling loved and making someone else feel loved is such a joyful, blissful, peaceful and out-of-the-world experience. If you have been with someone special, you must have experienced that even though two people are part of this process but you still feel that it’s your own journey. Why? Because all the vibrations that you feel for a person is because of the eruptions within you that happens just with a thought of the special one you are in love with. It is all being contributed from your end. Even if the other person stops loving you or say, doesn’t love you, still you feel the same. That is the power of love which is undefinable. No one knows how it is such an involuntary activity that it just happens without your choice.

You can never choose a person out of the crowd and say – He/She is whom I shall love from here on wards. It just doesn’t happen like that. If it was so easy, you could have bribed anyone in loving you back, got married with the person and stayed happily ever after. But Love causes more pain than pleasure. Most of the people only have tears or bad memories attached with it because it just happened without their control and the person for which it got generated didn’t and couldn’t feel the same about you even after your multiple attempts of ensuring that you don’t lose him/her.

Hence, the people who are lucky where the Love happened – co-incidentally, luckily, magically between the two people and if you are together – celebrate this Valentine’s Day like every other day of yours because I am sure when you are in a Love Relationship, you can’t live any day without being in 100% love. Hence, on this day, you can’t do anything different than what you usually do except gifting your partner with some materialistic thing which I believe isn’t the right way of displaying love just for the sake of it. Secondly, the people who had been waiting for proposing their friend on this particular day itself even after knowing that they also felt the same for them, Best of Luck! It is a nice way to make this Valentine’s Day memorable for yourself.

But in case, you are single and you don’t feel love for someone or you are sure that the person you love doesn’t feel the same about you, please be cautious and don’t do anything in hurry and jest. After that moment of proposal, you shall feel guilty about yourself and your immaturity for all your life which I must tell you is not a good feeling at all. You will start hating love which is the most unfortunate thing to happen with anyone. Because when you start hating this thing called Love itself, there is nothing left in you which shall make you feel ecstatic when you think about connecting with people intimately. Understand, social media is just a show-off. People are showing off their love. Displaying it as a commodity for others to judge and comment is such a cheap thing to do. But what can we say- except ensuring that we are conscious about how controlled we are from taking a wrong step this Valentine’s.

That is all I wanted to say today on the day which seems to be a great opportunity but is not always the way we pretend it to be. For the people in love, a very Happy Valentine’s Day to you..

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

Wednesday, 12 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Believe to Succeed like Azim Premji by Rajiv Agarwal (Book Review: 4.5*/5) !!!

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4th Book of 2020!

I have been regularly in touch with the book series initiative by Rupa Publications which is called as “Management Lessons From The Masters” where the author discusses about one of the most celebrated and authentic personality who is popular for his management and leadership skills. This time, I got my hands on the latest book, “Management Lessons From The Masters: Believe to Succeed Like Azim Premji”. Now who among us in India or even in world is not aware of this phenomenon known as Azim Premji! He has been one of my greatest inspirations and hence reading about him was a different experience altogether as much about him is not available in the online and offline world. Author discusses the same concern in the beginning of the book but still the way author has been able to write around 114 pages on him, his management and leadership skills is commendable.

The book is divided into 10 different chapters where each of them speaks about his characteristics and what made him what he is today. Each chapter begins with some testimonial spoken by some renowned personality or closest one of Azim Premji and then speaks about the topic in discussion and then ends with the Learning section where author discusses what he learnt from the actions of Mr. Azim Premji discussed in that particular chapter.

There are many great things to learn from this book as Premji’s attitude towards work has been very definitive and disruptive. From his family business being into vegetable oil and how it is totally transformed into an IT company where Wipro is identified as one of the major IT companies of India tells us about the challenges and risks Mr. Premji took. His frugality is widely discussed as to how he liked living as a minimalistic and took updates even of tissue papers in his organization. How he took actions against his employees in case people tried to manipulate expenditures and submitted vouchers with incorrect amount even if he/she was allowed to spend the amount mentioned in it. He believed in having a rule generalized for everyone as if 100 bucks are avoided in a junior-most position then a person at Top level shall make goof-ups of 10,00,000 bucks without any guilt.

Similarly, his philanthropic activities are shared with us which tells us how big-heart Mr. Azim Premji carries with him. He pledged to donate more than 50% of the revenues for charity purposes and right from the start of his career, he believed in sharing with the section of the society who were really needy of it. Along with this, I also loved how Azim Premji was the man of character where he didn’t allow his son to stay in the company’s guest-house when he went abroad to study as he believed that he wasn’t the employee of Wipro and hence didn’t have rights to use the Company’s guest-house.

There are many such incidents in the book which shall make you introspect on your behaviour and the organization you are working for and how you can bring the change being at whatever position you are. I really liked this short book which speaks volume and is definitely inspiring and motivating. I give this book 4.5* out of 5. Please do read if you are working in a Corporate structure or even in a Start-up. Recommended!


Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 
Tuesday, 11 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

The Chronicler by Jvalant Nalin Sampat (Book Review: 4*/5) !!!

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3rd Book of 2020!

There are very few Indian authors who write thrillers in a way that makes you feel excited throughout your reading experience and therefore, someone like me, who loves reading Indian authors, find it very difficult to choose good thriller-genre books written by an Indian. But sometimes taking risk capitalizes which is what happened with me on my decision of buying “The Chronicler” from Amazon. The book is written by the second-time author- Jvalant Nalin Sampat in around 150 pages.

To start with, I will say a very wonderfully designed cover page which goes so perfectly with the theme of the story that after completing the book, I feel that I could have guessed the 40% of the story just through its cover graphics itself. Now talking about the author, I must say Jvalant is a very capable writer who knows what he is writing on and how much depth should he go in - in order to ensure the interest of a reader stays high rather than making him confused with the small detailing on the subjects. Jvalant keeps it very simple with this book regarding the concepts and geo-political scenario that he keeps discussing in the form of fiction. It becomes very easy to read the novel even when its subject allows complete liberty to the author to make it complicated and too intellectual to not be understood.

The way the current state of International relationships and politics is used as a base to create a fiction around it and how a Chronicler becomes a catalyst in ensuring that everything goes well for the innocent people makes the book interesting. The multiple characters in the book does make it difficult to read in pieces hence I completed It in two sittings itself which ensured that I am with the pace of the novel without getting riddled in the name of the characters. But still, the way author has handled multiple locations and sets/scenes running simultaneously to each other which keeps us thrilled is commendable. The last few pages are really a very good closure to this great fast-paced book.


Now talking about the drawbacks, I feel author should have used less characters in the book or given their references initially in a page itself for the readers to remember them. Secondly, though the book is fast paced but in the middle of the story, the things get slowed down which makes you wonder why things are not moving ahead. Author could have explored few scenes more which I believe in order to keep the story crisp, author kept it to the point rather than dragging it. I wished this book was 100 more pages with more stuffs happening among countries for power.

Overall, this is a good read and I give this book 4* out of 5.


Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 
Sunday, 9 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Age of the Imperfect Leader by Pawan Verma (4.25*/5) !!!

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2nd Book of 2020!

There are many books that are published on the nature of leadership and what can be done at an individual level to become a successful leader. Most of these books talk about the pointers or diagrammatic representation of the specified points where it is expected for all of us to follow the same rule. This becomes quite boring to read- one and the same thing repeatedly as no one is able to offer anything different than what is already discussed in our management books. Thankfully, I got my hands on a book which talks little differently than other books on leadership named “Age of the Imperfect Leader” written by the author, Pawan Verma. The book also carries the tagline which says “Leading from strength”.

The book is written in a very simple language which can be read by anyone in industry or even in college as along with leadership, the messages it conveys can be implemented in any work that you do and not only if you are a leader. In around 240 pages, the book is nicely sectioned into different categories and chapters within the same. I liked how author speaks practicality in each and every sentence. I am in an IT industry in a mid-managerial designation where I get a chance to observe the new guys stepping into the industry expecting things to be customized as per them rather than having a generalized rule for everyone. And this is exactly with what author starts talking about leadership in the book which grabbed my attention.

Author talks about how we should keep utilizing our strength to ensure that our leadership benefits everyone with it rather than us struggling with empowering our weaknesses- a state in which a leader is himself in a confused state post which any positive result can’t be expected out from him. This is a little non-conventional idea as everyone talks about working on your weaknesses but it is something which shall really be beneficial as I have myself tested it since sometime. Author also talks about how imperfect leaders have been able to conquer their vision even with their imperfections only by using their strengths and skills they were good in. Majorly, author discusses what successful leaders have actually done rather than what ideally a leader is supposed to be for achieving success.

I liked how author talks about the benefits on collaborating and co-creating along with the concept of agile jugglers. How having a diversity in your workplace can bring perspective to the goal towards which your organization is working is also very nicely explained. The word “inclusion” is generally used in the books based on spirituality but it’s great to find how author talks about including the people of our community who are not as much blessed as us and grab their specializations too as they have the same skill sets or even better than the people we assume to be the best. I liked how lastly, in the last 2-3 chapters author gives great hope on leadership with new people.

I enjoyed reading the real-life examples that author has given. There are even excerpts and directly statements taken from the speeches or statements from the leaders whom we know due to their popularity but author helps us in understanding their style of leadership deeply. There could be controversies on few perceptions author gave on popular leaders but still, author went ahead and talked about it which I loved experiencing.

Overall, the book is a great-read specially if you are in higher studies or in a job profile. I give this book 4.25* out of 5.


Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 


Thursday, 6 February 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

13 Years Back.... on 6th Feb, 2007..

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Some people ask how in this worst do you survive… How do you live the way you do.. Do I ever answer to back my lifestyle? Do I have arguments to make? I do but do I have time to explain? If I even explain it to them, will they understand me? Is my past of any relevance to anyone? Does anyone else’s past affects me? Temporarily, it does. But permanently, it is only our life that matters. A soul protected within these muscles, bones, skins with blood flowing all around with a cycle of air coming in and going out. This is all that we are and this is all we should be believing in. Some days in your life remain with you no matter how many years pass. They just don’t leave you at all. They want you to be reminded of your vulnerable self. They tell you where you were and what you are and what you can be.

Should these days be kept with yourself or left behind to be forgotten as many small moments of your life? I think not. 6th February, 2007 – The day I was been called back home from hostel as I was portrayed by the nature of events as someone who is cheating onto everyone on the name of studies but doing everything apart studies. People see the prima facie and judge you. I was considered to be a bad son – a bad student – a bad individual. No one ever tried to get into what made me go to that level which took away my identity of a student and left me with unclear future. When you don’t know or you can’t comprehend what your next step would be or what you would like to become in life, it is such a dangerous event. No one should ever face it. I say it now because I faced it.

The city Pune from where I was brought back still remains to be a city where I wish like proving myself again and again. I am just not satisfied with whatever I have. I wish to do more. I wish to show it to the city that it deserved me. I deserved it. Life deserved me there. The world could have happened there. The city could have fallen in love with me. I could have fallen in love with the city. Alas! All that went into vain because I was termed to be someone who liked sleeping in hostel or surfing Internet in cyber café but not attend college. No one bothered to ask why I did what I did. There was just perception. The perception that took another 2-3 years for me to come out of the day that changed my life for worst.

But now on 6th February, 2020- after 13 years, when I look back, I find that some days are meant to be bad to churn out good out of you. Some days are meant to be life-changing to make you realize what being a failure is. Some days are needed to be the days that turns out to be page-turners in the book of your life. These days needs to be kept cherished in your heart always. No one needs to be blamed for it. Because that’s how life unfolds itself. Some good! Some bad! But in the end, it leaves you more educated out of the decisions you yourself make- out of knowledge or out of ignorance. But it’s you. People can take away from me the days of success but I shall never give away the days of these kinds which have made me less vulnerable today and more educated of myself. I cannot guide someone else’s life but surely, I can manage myself with more maturity than before. This day and date shall always stay special in my heart no matter whatever I achieve and howsoever high I climb the ladder of success. That’s all I have to say on this day after 1.3 decade.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA


Tuesday, 28 January 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

The Smart Balance by Ankita Aurora (Book Review: 4.25*/5)

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1st Book of 2020! 

There is one thing for sure that awareness does make some impact if not much. I have read many books and articles on various topics where the author/writer has spoken many things on why to do something or not to do something. After some time, I, obviously, don’t remember all that they had said but atleast something from their book or article which stays with me and keeps on enforcing me to do right things. One such topics in recent times on which awareness is necessary is reducing the usage of the digital mediums that we use for our entertainment and I am glad many authors are writing books on the same. One such book which I just completed reading which is also the 1st book of this year for me is Ankita Aurora’s “The Smart Balance” which is published by BlueRose Publishers in around 225 pages.

Speaking about this book, I am very glad that this book has new offerings than the other books which also speaks on the same topic of teaching readers to ensure that they are not getting too slaved by the digital devices around them but are also trying to be with people and nature around them. Generally, all the books only talk about Social media websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Instagram etc. whereas this book covers all kinds of digital medium which takes away our attention and ends up making us either mentally or physically unhealthy.

Author talks about how obviously social media are taking many of us towards depression considering people projecting themselves as happier than they are and the people consuming these contents feeling that they have nothing around to rejoice. I liked this whole section with which author started the book as author talks about many factors which are so true when we access Social media accounts. Post this, the whole video gaming fantasy has been discussed which made me understand the impact of it. This chapter made me realize that the book is speaking more than just Social media and Mobile phones.

Author also talks about how smart learning through technology is a great thing but how gradual the growing process of children has begun as they are directly given things on plate rather than them searching for the same and learning many other things in the process. Author also talks about the role of technology and its impact in our workplaces and from this chapter, I understood the kind of impact just reading and writing emails can have on us and our breathing. I am in a profile where I only have to scan mails and reply to them regularly and this chapter proved beneficial for me as I understood what I am losing by doing this basic task itself.

The book also talks about the diseases and health issues that we are ending up having just because of our unwanted extreme association with digital world – along with this we also get to know the new diseases that have got introduced in the medical field due to this. It is really scary to know about the consequences of being tech-savvy. And in the end, author talks about how we can balance the technology with our life and ensure that we are not impacting our life due to the inclusion of the same and I really found the section as a great solution provider of this major and dangerous concern. I liked the term “Digital Detox” and found the tools mentioned in this section which really seems easy to follow and you can sense its benefits. The last few pages tells us about the sources which helped author to draft this book.

Overall, this book is a knowledgeable piece of advice which all of us should take for ourselves and our next generation. I give this book 4.25* out of 5.


 Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 


Tuesday, 21 January 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Sanchita Ganguly: "Gender Neutrality is as much about men as about women" (Interview)

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 So, when I read the book named “We-Men@Work”, I was very surprised to know how an author can write about the two genders and about the neutrality that is supposed to be there between them without demeaning any of them. Sachita Ganguly, the author of this book, had conveyed her message very well through her debut book itself which made me think of interviewing her which you can enjoy below…


Hi Sanchita, tell us something about your first book- We-Men@Work.

Hey Abhilash! We-Men@Work is a non-fiction book that is intended to act as a conversation trigger around Gender Neutrality at work places. It travels through my experiences of around fifteen years in agencies and corporate offices to curate instances that look harmless when looked at individually but tell a different story when put together. Though the examples given in the book are of Indian workplaces, the implications are true irrespective of any geography.

The topic is extremely close to my heart and my perspective on it has changed as I have grown in the system. Today I firmly believe that a “with” approach will usher in an era of equal opportunities faster than a “vs”. Although for that to happen we need many open and honest conversations around it and this book is one such catalyst.

Gender Neutrality is as much about men as about women. Biologically the two genders are different, not better or worse, just different – and accepting that makes the race to “Equality” futile. Thus “Neutrality” is the language correction required in our vocab to re-align our actions in the right direction I feel.


Since how long did you want to write books or it is just that the topic discussed in this book made you write your first book?

I do not think I have ever thought of writing a book as an adult and I have definitely never thought of writing a non-fiction book. I actually started off by writing the “About this page” for FB, three years back. I had intended to start a forum on the topic back then on Face Book. I was and am extremely passionate about the topic and just wanted to bring it out in open to discuss and learn together. The “About” section kept running into pages and at the same time many colleagues opined that no one would want to talk about these things openly. That’s when I decided to pivot the conversation on a book instead. With a two years old kid (then, now five years) and couple of job switches it took me three years to finally complete the book and launch it.

I just want to play my part in ensuring freedom of choice (for all genders) to usher in a thriving working environment for all the genders without threatening each other’s progress. Deep seated biases shouldn’t guide our actions and detrimental shortcuts, that undermines merit, shouldn’t lure us. This desire was enough to drive me to pen this book

How did you research for this book as it talks about many concerns when it comes to Gender Neutrality?
To be extremely honest, there was no active research involved. I love to read and a lot of facts and theories that you read somewhere remain with you since they touch you somewhere deeper, so such facts have been reproduced in the book. But more importantly all the instances discussed in it are first hand and fourteen years plus is a long- long time to face gender related concerns in person if you are a working woman. Besides going through life-phases like marriage and maternity, gave dimensions to my experiences of gender issues at workplaces.

So most of the content of the book is pure experience and the inferences are mine which I believe were easy to derive given that the topic is so close to my heart.


How did you ensure that you don’t end up demeaning men while talking about uplifting women in society? How difficult it was?

It wasn’t difficult at all. I believe language is an extremely powerful tool. It plays a critical role in expressing our intent, which in turn drives all the action. I firmly believe that Neutrality is the answer to expedite a word of equal opportunities (which BTW the World Economic Forum has predicted will take another 208 years for USA).

It was very obvious to me that in the universe of workforce, where majority is of men, one cannot ignore them. We need to look at things from their perspective as well since the context of society has changed for both men and women. More importantly being an optimist, I am almost always sure that everyone wants a better life quality so the question to be answered was “how”.

Lastly, my experience tells me that gender biases are gender un-biased so irrespective of we being men or women or any other gender, need to fight those deep seated biases is common. The fact is everyone can prosper together. Unlike the law of energy, good quality of work life is not an either-or game. This belief gives a lot of freedom to act in the right direction.



How did such unique title come to your mind for this book?

Like I said, I love to read. I believe my thoughts have been shaped by the various books I have read from my childhood. The passion to read gave birth to my extreme love for word-play. I love to dissect words and make up stories about how they would have been derived from the sub-words. I know it sounds crazy but I look for stories everywhere.

We-Men@Work name came to my mind three years back, long before the first chapter was written. It was supposed to be the name of my FB forumJ. I always found “Women” an intriguing word since it includes “men” in it. So what better to pitch an inclusive plan of action that this word itself with minor tweaks that brings out the message loud and clear!

What was your state of mind when the Me Too movement was on its high in our country considering it speaks about men-women relationship in our corporate structure?

Sexual abuses are more common than they are talked about. Right from home to crowded stations, it is a disgusting reality we are living with. The corporate structure is not an exception. The fact that POSH (Prevention of Sexual Harassment) was introduced in 2013 (way before Me Too movement) acknowledges this reality. The policy became gender neutral recently though.

So Me Too did not shock me at all. I have been witness to few POSH cases and I know how it can be played both ways. It did frustrate me though. In the more controlled environment of office, it becomes a power game along with a gender game. Someone at a higher hierarchy generally dares to abuse people with an assumed confidence of the victim not reporting it or worse he/she will not face any consequences even if the act is reported.

It is disgusting and it is all around us. Like any other crime, I do not see even this getting eliminated but the perspective of looking at victims in this crime is convoluted. So if by policies, social media support and lifting taboos from subjects that are anyway known to everyone there is hope to make it as shameful a crime as any other for the perpetrator ( and not the victim)


How was your experience in searching the publisher for your book after completing your book?

Once I finished the book and started to figure out things I felt like writing the book was the easier part. It was in my control. I had no clue that there is a full-fledged industry out there related to book publishing. There is editing, book designing, cover designing and tons of other things involved. I was lucky that a dear friend offered to design the book for me so I did not have to explore much on that bit.

Coming to publishers, I had sent the first draft to few publishers early last year but did not hear back from them. Patience is one virtue that I lack. Once the book was completed (editing, design), I reasoned that the topic is non-fiction and controversial , additionally it was my debut work and my designation still doesn’t fall in the CXO category so I skipped approaching publishers and decided to self-publish. Reading that publishers did not take up “Immortals of Meluha” and Amish had to self-publish initially further convinced me to go for self-publishing rather than trying again. I was in a hurry to bring the topic out. I chose to self-publish on Notion Press (hard copy) and Amazon (E-copy). I have not taken any additional packages so far so publishing was zero cost for me.

Even through existing self-publishing platform one hardly earns anything but Amazon can change this game like they did for e-books. I am really happy with Amazon KDP and I wish they soon extend their services for hard copy books. That will make life a lot easier for new writers like me.



What would you like to tell your readers why should they pick this book of yours?

If someone is planning to enter the professional world or are in the professional world (at any level) , this book is for them. Secondly it is for all the parents who are crafting the society of tomorrow because like everything else practicing gender neutrality starts from home.

This book will take 4-5 hrs of your time but what I can promise them is that it will definitely open up avenues for them to talk about or act so that they can be the catalyst in turning the workplace into an equal opportunities playfield. Practicing mindful behaviour is easy, if only one knows what can hurt whom.
As parents don’t we try our best to ensure a better quality of living for our next generation then why not extrapolate that mentality at workplaces?

They might agree or disagree with me but that will trigger conversations. I believe change will be brought in one conversation at a time, one instance at a time and we all need to work together for the same



What is the next book that you are writing upon? Can we get a sneak peek on the same?

It’s just been a little more than a month that We-Men@Work is released so currently I want to focus on this book and more importantly on the cause. I am writing articles on the topic at various digital platforms, speaking to colleges to arrange for a talk to sensitize young minds on Gender Neutrality and running the LinkedIn forum on the topic https://lnkd.in/fNcpZvS  to spread the word and trigger as many conversations as possible.

Having said that, I had a fiction book in mind next when I was approaching the end of authoring this book. I wanted to write short stories of few women loosely based on people I know and their experiences. But once We-Men@Work was released, I got messages from a lot of people expressing that though the instances in the book are all personal, they would love a sequel where the span of book spreads wider and covers multiple related experiences of other people. So frankly I am undecided yet about my next book.





Sunday, 19 January 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Movie Review: Tanhaji: The Unsung Warrior: Power-packed hyper-nationalistic movie! ***½

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It’s very sad that most of us are not aware of the personalities who played major role in giving India the independence which almost seemed impossible centuries back when continuously some or the other foreign powers kept ruling us. Tanhaji Malasure is one such important character who played an important part in the history of state of Maharashtra and as I have lived in this state since my childhood, I had atleast heard his name if not about the battles he fought under Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj. He was the most trusted lieutenant and friend of the king and played an important role in the battle of Sinhagad on which the movie- Tanhaji: The Unsung Warrior is based upon.

Tanhaji: The Unsung Warrior is a very power-packed movie where right from the start, you see each and every visualization moving fast and keeping you glued to the screen to see how our warriors are saving our forts and citizens. The movie is released in both- 2D and 3D formats – I went for the 3D version and I must say I enjoyed watching it. The glasses did wonder to the VFX and digitalization used in the movie. The movie being of less than 140 minutes makes it very crisp and to-the-point. Yes, in the beginning of the 2nd half, it does become bit slow but that is needed to ensure the climax of the movie has an impact during the closure of the movie on the audience.

The action scenes are amazing. Actually, movie talks more in actions and less on historical facts hence even after watching the movie if someone shall ask you what you got to know about Tanhaji, you shall not have much to say except 2-3 points but you will only end up essaying how courageous, will-powered, loyal, trusted, brave, self-motivated warrior he was. The movie teaches us how one has to be aligned with the thoughts of the leader and have the same goal as him to ensure incessant success. It also tells how a leader should empower his key resources that they can battle the war being a leader themselves not wanting any guide above them.

Talking about the background scores and songs, they add value to the movie which makes the whole impact with you as there were moments when I just wanted to get up from my seat and watch those powerful fighting scenes with loud chant and all. The movie, with its actors’ performances and aesthetics, makes you emotionally charged up with hyper-nationalism. And this is also the intention of the makers.

About performances- Ajay Devgn as Tanhaji Malasure is as always, inspiring, convincing and perfect. Saif Ali Khan as UdayBhan, Mughal Emperor Aurangzeb’s general, has also played a very dangerous villain with his scary looks, dangerous decisions, ruthless killing attitude and respect for no one else than himself. Kajol with her limited timeframe still manages to add value with her wonderful chemistry with husband, Ajay Devgn, and her admiring acting skills. In the last scenes of the movie, the way she has carried the whole thing is a very beautiful work. Special mention to Sharad Kelkar – WOW! As Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj, he has just made me want to go back to that century and witness the powerful man myself.

Overall, the movie is watchable and unmissable. I give the movie 3.5 stars out of 5. Just if the makers ensured there were enough historical facts than only actions, this could have been a landmark movie.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 


Thursday, 2 January 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

I am just a Nameless Emotion..

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The happiness and sadness are a periodic cycle which comes and goes as per it’s will. If you and I can change it, then there’s no fun in living. It is only when things strike you at unexpected hours do you realize the kind of change it has done to you. The most that I saw myself changing was a decade back and I don’t think I have ever seen such low ever in life after that. Even before that during childhood there has been many humiliating incidents but I never broke then. I always felt that life is easy but it is only when I was 17 years old when I couldn’t register when I went so deep while diving into this thing called life that I couldn’t handle it and wasted my years coming out of its depression.

That is why I relate with the movie Kabir Singh so much. The madness and aggression that the character of Kabir has is always there within all of us but we can’t live the way he started living by throwing things away just like that. We have a society around us about which we keep thinking and can’t express our pain and frustration the way Kabir does. That is why after that incident I became an emotion myself. Yes! I know saying this is odd but I became a person defining and understanding whom has become difficult. I know I am sounding poetic but I will say it today without any shame. I am what you can only think but can’t hold and say this is it.

Every person who considers me close to them will agree that after meeting me, they just couldn’t think of ever getting separated from me because they get a person who talks about himself the way no one does and also understand the person sitting in front of him the way no one ever understood them. This empathetic value in me is because of the number of books I read. There are so many characters I have met through the books that no other person in real life has been able to shock me with his/her behaviour. I have seen all these people in the books I am always peeping into. Hence, the mind and soul in me which talks with anyone does it the way the character is being treated in the book and is able to leave an impact that the person believes that the person he/she just met is not a person but an emotion he/she would keep wanting to experience.

I have analysed myself a lot from 3rd person’s point of view and I can only say that whatsoever I do, I ensure that there are no regrets ever of not attempting something. I might succeed. I might fail. I might end up hanging in between of success and failure but I end up putting myself into the shoes and walking the future which I keep analysing in my mind all the time. And once the future becomes present and then past, I know, it was all the illusion the mind had created and nothing is ever permanent. Everything is just passing by. If someone has gone today from this planet, what are you crying for. One day even you are going to go. Are you here to stay forever? No, right? That’s when I realized if I ever leave, how would I be remembered?

I believe I shall be remembered more as an emotion- an emotion which is not happiness, ecstasy, sorrow, joyfulness, anger etc. but something which is distinct in itself. People would want to hate me but they won’t be able to because of that genuity and gentleness that I carried with myself even when I did things wrong. I may have troubled people but I have also given them the moment of their life. I may have hidden things with people but I have also shared something with each closest person that I have shared with no one else. There are times when people have broken me but I never complained about them but considered it destiny and walked with smile on my face. When I abuse twice in each sentence, the person knows these are just words and, in the heart, I am only expecting good to happen with everyone including myself. 

It’s New Year and I hope that with each year the Emotion that I am keep on becoming stronger that whenever someone experiences it, they shall remember me only with some kind of awkwardness that they are all bare in front of me and nothing is hidden. Similarly, they could also experience me bare but still, they won’t be able to understand what this emotion actually meant. I am that character of your favorite book who keeps everyone happy but no one ever understands if he is himself happy or not. A reader just lives that character during the journey of reading and after that for whole life, always remembers that character in terms of emotions and not as a person. Yes, I am that character only. Oh Sorry, Emotion!

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 


Wednesday, 1 January 2020 | By: Writing Buddha

Remembering 2019 and Welcoming 2020 in my own way...

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The idea of New Year is so intimating, right? I always wait for the New Year whenever the countdown starts and I believe in starting a New Year with celebrations- be of whatever kind they are rather than just sitting like every day and treating it very casually. Last night, I went to a hotel to celebrate it with my friends, ate a lot, danced a lot, roamed on streets, sat under the clouds, enjoyed the cool winter breeze and felt all the vibes that kept telling me that there’s one more chance to up your game and better yourself and become what even you have not thought about yourself.

Because I reached home late and also as I am running with fever, I took a good sleep and woke up on 1st January, 2020 in afternoon after which I lived the 1st day of the year by reading a bit, now writing this blog post, meeting my friend and talking about life and its challenges, breaking up with one best friend due to a decision I took last year which went wrong though I don’t regret much about the decision, went for jogging for an hour, worshipped two temples and thanked God for taking care in 2019 and assured the Supreme power that I’ll do the best I can for the universe through my small life, laughed, cried, wished many people etc.

Thanks to my office that I get leave on the first day of the New Year otherwise I heard that many people have to work even on the 1st January. Since childhood, I don’t remember a single day when I had to go to school/college/work on the 1st January and wish that this shall continue till I am on the planet. Haha! Living the 1st day as per your wish has its own charm in itself which can’t be described. It is a time when you sit and think a lot about how the previous year was for you. I am very happy with 2019 as it gave me a lot of opportunity to grow myself professionally and personally.

Talking about professional life, I got a great appraisal and promotion and loved it. I also learnt a lot of new things as several tasks came onto my desk which I had not performed earlier. In the 1st half of the year, I handled client in an unexpected way but improved myself in the 2nd half of the year and ensured that client is happy with my way of conduct and it also reflected in the way days started getting spent in the office. Earlier, I made friends in office which made tasks difficult but this year, I managed to keep things professionally itself which resulted in better management. It was a good year in terms of work I am doing and I hope this year shall provide me more opportunities in office.

Talking about blogging and reading, I managed to complete the target of 52 books and learnt a lot from them. I also saw a lot of stuffs online- movies, web series, reality-shows, vlogs, motivational videos etc and wrote about them. Talking about the blog, I managed to write only around 75 posts which is the least in any year since I started blogging back in 2009. This is because most of the times I didn’t want to fake myself up and write positive things when actually I was going through negative and stressful period in my life. Now when I was self-introspecting today, I felt I should have handled the conditions better which has made me turn on the laptop and write 1st blog post on the 1st day of the year even when I am going through a rough phase now. Also, I am happy that this year, I didn’t only write blogs but posted a lot of stuffs on Instagram too and got opportunity to do product reviews etc. Saying everything, the landmark of 1800th Blog Post got achieved this year.

Coming down to my personal life, I got great experience of traveling to Sri Lanka- my first ever international trip. Though I didn’t write and share much about it but will do so once I get better. I also travelled to Delhi and met my childhood friends there and it was a beautiful time spent with them. I got to drive long from Mumbai to Nashik/Shirdi and loved doing 500 Kms in two days. I got to meet my idol – Robin Sharma who gave me new life a decade back when I had no purpose. I also attended two beautiful concerts- Kumar Sanu and Adnan Sami and both were cherishing time spent. I again got an opportunity to attend an episode shoot of Kaun Banega Crorepati and experience Mr. Amitabh Bachchan for 4 hours in front of me. This shall stay unforgettable and best moment of life.

We got our home renovated again. I purchased a new mobile for myself. I started the habit of jogging and running as a new lifestyle and I am enjoying it. I started consuming Black Coffee without any sugar etc. to avoid getting more fats. I made my dieting stronger which was very tough for me though it didn’t affect my body shape a bit. Haha! I have also started drinking only warm water. I stopped consuming cold-drinks every now and then. I only have it occasionally when I have no other options available. I started dancing just for fun and not professionally which keeps me excited and shared few of my clips on Whatsapp status and Instagram too. Haha! These are small things which got initiated in 2019.

The best thing about 2019 will always be the Youtube Channel named- Writing Buddha that I started and recorded around 5-6 videos for it. I request all of you to please support it and help me in growing the same.

Now talking about 2020:- This Year and This Decade is going to be great for me as I am in my 30s now and living it shall be about more maturity and zeal as there are certain things I didn’t do in my 20s due to the stress of studies, career etc. but I am going to make up for all of them in 2020. The 1st goal is to get the best version of my body shape for which I have already started jogging, running, exercising. As I said above, my Youtube channel shall be of great concentration for me. I shall be focusing on completing 1900th Blog Post this year. I would again be reading 52 books this year. I shall be attending the events etc. which shall help me experience or meet more celebrities. Instagram shall also see around 100 influencing posts. Meditation shall be part of life which I couldn’t do much in 2019. I will be traveling more and I think what I didn’t do in last decade, I would be ending up traveling more than that in this year itself.

And best of all of it, I am going to be part of 5 AM Club which Robin Sharma has been endorsing for so long and finally I would not be Night Owl anymore and would be Early Bird very soon. This year and decade shall more be about transformation. I am going through some rough patch which I believe should get resolved as soon as possible because now it’s high time that I take it as a negative thing altogether. I will let you know once this concern becomes history and I hit the end of the tunnel for the same.

With all of this, I would ask all of you to also share what you have in sight for this year and decade so that we get more ideas on how we can make our year special. In the end, I wish all of you a very Happy New Year 2020 and hope that all of us grow together in this and stay connected through the multiple platforms on which Writing Buddha is available.

Thanks a lot for reading the complete post.

WRITING BUDDHA