Birthday Post:- 10 Life Lessons I learned in my 20s

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So, finally, the worst fear has become true- I have left my 20s behind and stepped into my 30s. I don’t know if one should be happy about this growing up thing, but it makes me feel very scared. Who doesn’t like being in 20s forever? This has been the best of the three decades of my life. I managed to complete my Graduation, Post-graduation and a part-time Post-Graduation too. I got my first job and five different designations. I got into reading and it became life- 510 books and still counting.. 40 books done in 2019 itself. I explored writing which I never knew I enjoyed so much and ended up writing 1800 Blog Posts. I also got several opportunities of rubbing my shoulder with celebrities at events where I got invited as Blogger. I also tried and now I am reviewing Health and other products on Instagram and enjoying even this. Finally, in the late 29, I started Youtubing and I already have 3 videos on the platform and ended up having a century of subscribers.

What I have shared above are few of the major events between my 20 to 30. Along with them, there have been many small but catalysing moments which impacted my life for good. Now that I have turned 30, I can look back and suggest few things which people in their 20s should take care of. This is the advice to all the boys and girls who have just crossed their teens and are nervous about what to do in their 20s like how I am feeling while entering my 30s.

So here are few points which shall definitely help you in your 20s--

1.       Start Exercising- Nothing above health

This is the one thing where I couldn’t concentrate due to my workaholic nature as I always kept myself involved in one or the other tasks but this has made my body very weak for which I’ll have to face low energy and immunity throughout my 30s and even in future if I don’t make Exercising, cardio, jogging, gyming, running, yoga my regular lifestyle. And let me tell you- there will be times when you would want to enjoy and explore a lot, but your body won’t support you hence please ensure this is the first thing you start if you have already not started.

2.       Learn to spend time alone

In your teenage, you spend most of your time with your friends, television, internet, movies etc. but never concentrate upon who you really are. This impacts a lot when you are in college or go out for searching job. You don’t realize who you are and that gives you an identity crisis. Hence, learn to be alone at times. Just sit quietly for 15-30 minutes daily and do nothing and just think about things you have gratitude for and what do you feel about yourself. If possible, try meditation and make it your lifestyle. It changes your perspective altogether.

3.       Save Money

It is easy to say that money can’t buy everything but let me tell you except the 1^st point above and few people, money can almost buy everything. It is very necessary. Hence, develop the habit of saving at least 20% of whatever you shall start earning and I tell you when you shall reach your 30s and look at what you have already saved whereas your peers have not even begun, it gives an incredible feeling that your life is getting sorted.

4.       Experience Everything

In the quest of saving a lot of money, don’t become miser which I ended up becoming. Haha! Try experiencing everything once even if it is out of budget. I am not saying that go for Dubai trip when your salary is only 10,000 a month but anything that shall not impact your pocket very highly, do not back out. When you are in a group and people talk about something which you have never experienced, it gives a very big inferiority complex hence better than that is spending some money.

5.       Make Less Friends but Worthy Ones

This is the biggest problem that one encounters when one has already got associated with a company which always talks about useless stuffs and not something which can empower you and change your lifestyle and color your world. It is great to plan traveling, going for hang-outs etc. but it’s more important to talk about careers, future and priorities. You are more or less as powerful and weak as a personality as per the people you hang-out with hence kindly change it if you are actually wasting your time in chit-chatting and Whatsapping with these people on useless things.

6.       Get into Relationship

This is not as easy as it sounds because not everyone is lucky to find a partner. Haha! But I tell you when you get into relationship, if it is something that adds value in your life, you shall grow twice than you are currently doing. But in case you get a bad partner, you learn to end relationships in a better way. In case nothing good comes out of the relationship at all, at least, you have gone through heartbreak which again triggers somewhere in you to become a better person in life. And you never know you might end up finding your life partner.

7.       Learn as much as you can

Never feel shy of getting yourself enrolled in any kind of courses even if it is not related to your field or career. If you feel like, get into it, learn the art or skill, and keep practising what you learnt. It makes you understand the different dimensions of life. And it opens your mind to accept any work in future after college. You know economy gets hit and recession comes at any point of time, these skills help you keep earning with your unlimited skillsets. Otherwise, you shall end up getting jobless and clueless about future.

8.       Develop a Hobby/Passion

Remember one thing- what you learn in college, everyone does. Everyone attends the same lecture and gives the same exam. What you do at workplace is what everyone around you of your department is doing. There is nothing great about it which shall uplift your life and spirit. It is your hobby or passion that you pursue after the college/work that empowers you and gives you your identity. I started reading and blogging from the day I joined by Graduation and let me tell you, I have marched through many depressing moments just like any other thing without getting too much impacted by it. Also, I got many opportunities and attention just because of this.

9.       Read as much as possible

If that’s your hobby and passion like me as discussed above, then it’s sorted but if it’s not then I would recommend you start reading. Start with newspaper. Then pick up a book the title or cover page of which interests you. You can also subscribe to Amazon Kindle Unlimited which is very affordable and gives access to unlimited books or join a library. You can also subscribe to the magazines. Read Bhagawad Geeta. Read everything that comes across you except Twitter-Facebook-Instagram timelines. They are waste!

10.   Weekends are the Key to Success

What you do on your weekends define you! Yes! This is the last point and the most important one. If you just sleep or binge-watch movies or end up in a fast-food joint/mall and spend the whole day there with your friends, I am telling you these are 104 days of the year. More than a quarter of the year. Use it effectively. As I already said- Join classes or courses that elevates your personality and moots you onto the next stage whereas your friends and competitions shall be wasting their weekends in the above mentioned useless activities.

I hope you find the above points effective. Let me know when you touch your 30s if following the above tips helped you feel better or not. I would be waiting for your response. Even if you are 29, you can start following them. Even 3 months of lifestyle is effective, a whole one year can transform your life completely. And if you are 20, think what you can do to yourself in next 10 years. This is one of the most exploratory decade of your life hence God Bless You All and yes, don’t forget to wish me a Very Happy Birthday!

Few pictures from my Birthday:-

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WRITING BUDDHA

Supercop of Aryavrat by Mithilesh Kumar (Book Review: 4.25*/5) !!!

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I was never inclined so much towards mythology and history but the modern literature where the authors assure that we don’t get bored of these stories are very entertaining to read as the writers write them like fiction and not how our History books were written. One such book that I have just ended up reading is written by Mr. Mithilesh Kumar who is 65+ of age. Kudos to author for sharing his knowledge with us at this age. The name of the book is “Supercop of Aryavrat” published by Authors Upfront in around 300 pages. Yes, the book is quite lengthy, but I must say it is worth reading if you really wanted to read about Lord Krishna’s adventures on the planet Earth.

It is not easy to write on any such historical or mythological character considering the amount of research it goes into knowing each and every detail about him/her but I must say the maturity of author can be seen in every sentence written in this book describing one or the other tale having Krishna in the scenario somewhere or the other playing his strategic mind games. We get to know his story right from how he got his birth, his childhood, his days as king, his multiple marriages, his difficult moment with his cousins which led to the war of Mahabharata where he played a very big role which made us know and understand about our religion and finally the few moments before his death and finally his death.

I am glad that author, rather, than talking only about those events which all of us already know about Krishna’s childhood and youth talked about events which most of us are unaware about but plays a big importance in understanding the character and dynamicity of this Superman called Lord Krishna. Though author has never tried to project him as God or Lord in the book, but you can understand how important Legend he has been to give positive results to many incidents of history/mythology. Also, I liked how author didn’t spend major time in the sequence where Bhagawad Geeta is imparted but talked only about actions which happened at fast-pace unlike other books which ends up giving importance only to that section and ends the book then and there.

Another great observation that I had while reading is- author has not written this book in awe of Krishna where his mistakes aren’t highlighted. If author talks about his bravery, strategy, decision-making, courage, romance, power, leadership, respect, author also highlights his mistakes, mischiefs, wrong decisions, regrets, immaturity, ignorance etc.

Now talking about the drawbacks, I would say that author could have definitely given this book a good edit by 40-50 pages as I felt few scenes are really described more than needed. Also, through the title of the book, very less people would be able to guess that it is about Lord Krishna which shall keep this book away even from people searching for book on the Lord. Author started with a chapter which should have actually been the ending chapter of the book as it could have given an emotional climax to the book whereas now it gives an incomplete feeling to the reader in case reader is not able to connect the last sentence of the book with the 1^st chapter. There are too many characters in the book, which is definitely not author’s mistake, but I believe a family tree, or the relation of the characters could have been mentioned in the start of the book for reference throughout. I also felt that few characters are not given very nice built-up due to which you can’t connect with them throughout. And lastly, I believe the multiple marriages of Krishna is discussed regularly in the 1^st half of the book which irritated me after a point of time.

Other than the above observations, this book is definitely one of the good books on Krishna and I give this book 4.25* out of 5 and I would love to read more books by the author in the same genre.

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WRITING BUDDHA 

Attended KAUN BANEGA CROREPATI - Witnessed AMITABH BACHCHAN Again :-)

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Since childhood, I had always heard my mother being fan of Mr. Amitabh Bachchan and I had no such attraction towards the Superstar as he didn’t belong to my era and had never seen his work seriously being a child. I grew up being fan of Salman Khan and then Hrithik Roshan. But regularly watching #KaunBanegaCrorepati in my childhood, seeing the kind of personality Mr. Bachchan was, I started dreaming of looking and becoming like him one day- Dynamic and Perfect. I started considering him as someone who is as perfect as God. Later, when I shifted to Mumbai and got my first Internet connection, I didn’t know what to surf after creating my accounts on few Social media accounts such as Twitter, Facebook etc. Then I remembered that I had heard a lot about Mr. Bachchan’s blog on which he writes something for his fans. I searched on Google and landed up on his blog page.

When I started reading his Blogs, I was surprised to find that he had not missed a day since he started Blogging for around 300-400 days. And when I read what he used to write, initially, I didn’t understand much but later when I myself got inclined towards #Spirituality, I started understanding the meaning behind his difficult sentences. Since then, I am one person who has not missed a single Blog Post written by him i.e. 4225 blog posts till date.

I then got this big desperate desire of meeting Mr. Amitabh Bachchan- if not meeting then at least seeing him once in my life and make it possible for my mother also who has been his fan since childhood. The only difference between her and me is- she is fan of the person on-screen and then what he is off-screen whereas I am fan of what he is off-screen as a person and then what he is on-screen as an Actor.

I got to know about one of his concerts which was arranged by Mr. Aadesh Shrivastava, the music director, who is no more with us. But I got to see Mr. Bachchan from very far as the concert was free and you can imagine the crowd strength. Still, the desire didn’t die. And finally, in 2017, I somehow managed to find the set-up which helped me attend one of the shoots of Kaun Banega Crorepati, yes, the show which made me admire and fall in love and respect with the Superstar of the Millennium for the first time. It was an amazing experience. We sat as an audience behind Mr. Bachchan and hence we got to see him clearly only in breaks when he looked towards our side and in the end when he came for photographs. As soon as I saw him leaving the set, a sinking feeling trapped me badly post which I was sick for 4-5 months. No one would believe it but yes, that was the reason, though my parents and few close friends understood the reason.

I wished to see him once again after that to remove this feeling that he is gone, and I would not be able to come as close as this to him ever. And God heard me. This year, in 2019, I again got the opportunity to attend an episode shoot of Kaun Banega Crorepati on 26^th August ,2019 with my parents. This time luckily, we got the audience seat opposite him which made it a great experience as I got to see my Legend, my Role Model, the person because of whom I have been able to scribble around 1800 blog posts, for 3-4 hours continuously. I grasped the whole moment this time in such a positive way that now I feel contented that I have Mr. Amitabh Bachchan around me always. Though again I am sick since then and regularly having doses. 

I still wish if I can talk with him once and share my feelings I have for him. Let’s see if it is for this birth or some other but Mr. Amitabh Bachchan was, is and will always be a phenomena in my life due to which I have been able to manage little success and achievement in my life otherwise I didn’t understand what it meant working for 16-20 hours a day, assuring that certain things need to be executed every day etc. And yes, I would like to thank #KBC team for making this dream come true for both- my mother and me by arranging our entries for the shoot and experience the biggest star perform live in front of us.

You can call it craziness, madness whatever but this is the feeling which doesn’t need any validation.

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WRITING BUDDHA