2092nd BLOG POST
While I was working
upon my new year resolutions for 2024, I just thought of going through what I
had thought of achieving in 2023. Though the target wasn’t very out of my zone
yet when I was going through the unachieved ones – I realized that I fell back
on so many of them which could have been achieved very easily. In hindsight, we
always retrospect. But sometimes, I think if retrospection is just another form
of procrastination or it does bring something positive out of the whole exercise.
Thinking of many such instances, I feel that every time we have failed in
achieving anything, it is not because of any external factor but our lack of
commitment towards ourselves.
If we promise
something to our friend, we go all our way along to ensure that we don’t fail
in executing what we promised them. Similarly, if we are at work and we have
committed to a deadline, we go all our way to send that mail on that EOD so
that we aren’t blamed for any failures. Even with the person we love or have
soft corner for – not necessarily a love relationship – we don’t want to
disappoint them at all. We will go through sleepless nights just for readying
that gift we know would make them extremely happy on their special day. But what
happens when the same is expected towards our own well-being? Why do we feel
that we aren’t answerable to anyone even if we don’t provide ourself the required
on the expected day?
I have understood
that success and failure are never guaranteed even if we put all the hard
efforts that are required to achieve anything but what one requires the most is
commitment towards one’s own self. We lack the intensity when it comes to promising
anything to ourselves but yet we expect great things to happen with us. There
may be multiple times when you must have promised yourself of a better
lifestyle… of dedicating certain amount of time every day for yourself – on your
health – on your reading habits – on improving your skill sets – on your
studies – on your family life etc. But every time, you must have ignored it as
generously as you had decided upon following them. Why are we so careless
towards ourselves?
We think that
someone else will come up one day in form of a great friend, sibling, parent,
stranger or an opportunity will fall upon the sky and do everything for us all
of a sudden. We feel that life just needs that one miracle which must have been
written in my destiny to happen which will give meaning to all the failures and
struggles that we are walking upon. Why don’t we understand that no one else is
going to come to help us out from our misery? Even if someone would want to
help us, they can only devote a limited time out of their own busy schedule for
us. We can never rely on anyone else to be committed to us when we are
ourselves in a toxic relationship with our own self.
Our actions are enough
to tell how much we want something. If we just keep on saying, claiming,
manifesting without any real execution and commitment towards our dream and
goals, it tells us about our own character every minute. If our priority items
are only in our words but we never act upon them the way we should, then deep
down we don’t actually want to achieve it. Yes! It might sound an impossible
fact but it is true. We keep on lying ourselves continuously of achieving this
and that target but in reality, we are just clowns making our minds laugh by
making it win every moment.
We just don’t want
to control our mind and make it work on our commands. We want a life of comfort
and damn, when has anyone achieved heights by chilling at the base of Mount
Everest. One has to fight thousands of challenges to reach the summit when the
world and universe actually acknowledges your presence. When you are at
journey, no one wants to know you. I read a quote written by James Clear which
said “Your actions reveal your true motivations”. How true is that!
Every moment wasted
in partying with friends, chilling at restaurants, gossiping at office, spending
money on expensive cloths/cosmetics, lying to parents comes back to haunt us.
They never get disappeared in this galaxy of things in space. It knows that
there’s a phenomenon called as Karma which needs to be served to the same
person who emitted the negative energy with his/her behavior towards the universe.
There’s a reason why we are not achieving things and only by our alertness and
awareness, we can fix it. We need to be committed to ourselves first before
being committed with anyone else. Your friends, family and colleagues will be proud
of you only when you are a person of great conduct and discipline. Otherwise,
you yourself know how you treat or see the people who aren’t disciplined and
sincere about their life and success. Well, that’s all….
Thanks!
WRITING BUDDHA
